How often do we miss certain opportunities in life and recall events just to mentally hissed “stupid!” to ourselves? Well, at least that happened to me more than I care to admit.
I try not to put my sob story out here since this is supposed to be a positive blog (duh); but i will, however, share the conclusion that i came up with after missing all those amazing opportunities and is now trying to participate and live a full life as much as possible with the best of my ability.
So many times i turned down invitations and events just because i was scared. Yes. i admit it. And I’m not ashamed of saying that, acknowledging your mistake is the first step to preventing it from happening again in the future. Being an anxious kid for most of my life (still am, but getting better), I just didn’t think that i would be happy or comfortable in those situations nor could i handle myself justly. It took many years and hindsight for me to realize how much memories and experience i had wasted away just because i was scared to say “yes”. Other times i back out due to having low confidence in myself, essentially. I always felt like i didn’t deserve to go to those events or accept the invitation, that i didn’t think i would be a good company for the person who invited me, that it felt like the end of the world if it didn’t turn out a perfect event for a perfectionist like me – and i can tell you right now, it is NOT the end of the world even you didn’t enjoy that event. I repeat, it is NOT. And now that i’m older and (hopefully) wiser, and i know that i should embrace my ignorance and inexperience; and mostly, to embrace the imperfection. ‘Cause being perfect is boring, am i right? 😉 that is precisely why i need to experience more, otherwise 40 years from now i will still be pondering about the “what ifs” or “could haves”. Never over think or let the false imagination get the better of you, And never let fears make your decision. As cheesy as it sounds, you really only live once. So, go for it.
Now i am not about to ask you to blatantly say yes to literally anything and everything including a suspicious guy handing you a drink – what i am saying is, whenever there is an opportunity, take it. Don’t second guess yourself, don’t stress over it and be anxious about it, chances are, a year from now, you will be glad that you took it and you will be thanking yourself for seizing the opportunities as opposed to banging your head against the wall and cursing for letting the opportunity slip away. Regret truly is the most dreadful thing.
If you are still not convinced, here is a little quote:
“Although humans are said to be the most intelligent species, we’re the only ones who are so darn self conscious that we sacrifice what we want because we’re afraid we won’t get it.”
Lots of love,